Cindy was frustrated - How could he treat me like this?

Cindy had given birth, raised, and taken this kid to all his ballgames and now he was a foreigner in her house treating her like she was part of the trash to take out and throw in the garbage.  With no man in the house her teenage boy had become distant and disrespectful with no regard for the family or his little brothers and sister. 

Cindy was at her wits end and didn't know what to do.  My wife and I listened again as we had with so many moms in the same situation.  We already knew the story well.  The feelings of failure, hurt, and anger, but most of all - "How can he treat me like a doormat, he treats me like I'm his personal attendant."

We took hands with Cindy and did what we had done many times before.  We all closed our eyes and asked Cindy to take all that emotion and bundle it in front of her - in her hands.  All the hurt, the fear, the anger, the humiliation, etc...   We told her to get it all in that bundle.  Every feeling and seed of disgust at what her relationship with her son had become.  We told her to let us know when every root of frustration was pulled up out of her soul and heart and in that bundle.  Cindy began to cry.  It took a while as she worked to get it all out.  We encouraged her lightly to make sure nothing was left behind.   

Then we asked her to see God standing before her and to lay it down at His feet.  Lay it down, even if just for a moment to see what God would do with it.  As she did, she began to cry harder.  We knew, as had happened so many times before, that God had intervened in that bundle, and for the first time in a while Cindy remembered what she knew as a child - God loves her and He always did.  That as a father, He would begin, with her permission, to intervene in her situation. 

As a gentleman, He will never interfere where He is not wanted, but when released by our asking will move with vengence in the life of His children who call out to Him the same way I would move in my children's lives when I see them struggling, but saying, I can do it Dad.  Finally, when they realize they are over their head, I swoop down and do what I want so badly to do - rescue them.

After a long cry and surrender of all the pain and blocks, Cindy is free, but not finished.  Now there is a big space in her soul where before so many bad things and thoughts dwelt at their leisure and they would love to come back and have their way.  Next, we ask Cindy to join us in thanking God for taking these horrible things and intervening in her life. 

Thank you Lord.  Thank you so much for taking the hurt, the anger, the pain.  And now Lord, what if my relationship with my son could be normal.  Cindy had a hard time receiving this thought.  We asked her to just imagine - pretend and say, "What if it was normal."  We closed our eyes again.  Cindy began to wonder what it would be like.  Those thoughts or seeds began to take root and Cindy began to cry again. 

What if your son came home from school everyday and hugged you?  What if he let you know that he appreciated the things you do for him?  Everything starts with a thought and when you think/pray like this, it is very powerful because something happens in the air (spiritual realm) that begins to change everything.  Highly emotional and passionate prayer from the heart changes things when surrendered to God.

What if, when you were sitting and watching television at night, your teen boy came and snuggled up to you?  What if.... What if....  All of a sudden - Cindy changed.  She became a different person.  She was now a mother who believed that anything was possible and that her son some how - some time in the future - would change.  She did not know how and she did not know when, but she knew in her heart that something was different.  She now believed and had faith that her son could be different.

Then we asked Cindy to imagine her son being all that she imagined/prayed.  Imagine that he was 10 times what she imagined - 10 times better.  Now imagine that he was 100 times better.  Now 1000 times better.  We then asked her to give thanks to God and surrender her son to Him.  To push him to God.  Imagine your son in front of you facing God.  Then take your hand and push him towards God and see what God does with him.  Use both hands if you need to, but push him all the way into the hands of God.  It is your right.  It is your flesh and blood.  So push and take authority over your child.  Don't worry, if he refuses to go, the angels will help you, literally help you push him to God. 

You have authority given to you to intervene in his spirit and bring him to the brink of God.  I know this because my mother did it to me.  God's conviction was so strong in my life when I was living for my self as a teen, that I would have to consciously deny Him as He pulled at my heart.  I was very bitter and hurt.  I knew God so well by the time I gave into Him, because I had had so many conversations with Him prior to my surrender, because He was responding to my mom's cries.

To this day, I can still feel the same tugging on my soul especially when I give into His nudgings.  We asked Cindy to thank God for taking her son and working with him.  She began to cry again as she saw God begin to deal with her son.  Cindy saw God take her son by the shoulder with one hand and then reach into her sons chest with His other hand and take her sons heart out.  It was hard and rotten. 

God raised it to his mouth and dust came off the heart.  God put the heart in His mouth between His teeth.  As he cracked down on the heart it cracked open and the shell dropped down to the earth leaving a fleshy pounding healthy heart.  As the shell dropped to the ground, God lifted His foot and smashed it to pieces and looked in Cindy's eyes as if to say, this is not from me, but I will crack your sons heart and break it so it can become soft again and alive.

Cindy, crying, began to see her son as a child of God that needed to have his hurt and anger healed just like hers.  She began to see him as a child who had been hurt by the fights between herself and his father.  She began to see a young man who wants to snuggle up with his mom, but can't because of all the anger and desperation to feel love. 

I want to read you a poem my sixteen year old son wrote to me the other night when my wife and four kids and I sat and watched TV.  I had fallen asleep and the next morning I found this paper my wife put on my desk.  It had been made into a paper airplane and my son had thrown it at me as I slept on the couch.  My son is a junior in a 5A High School and plays football, basketball, and golf.  He works out everyday and stands six foot tall weighing 200 pounds.  This is the poem.

"DaD"

Dad Dad laying on the couch

you look like you're tired

like kind of a slouch.

I would love to lay with you

but you don't want too.

Dad Dad laying on the couch

Dad Dad quiet as a mouse.

We all just want to be loved.  Surrender everything to your Father.  You can probably feel Him waiting now.  I know I do while writing this.  I am going to spend some time with Him now.

www.michaelpdunn.org

         

Fear of Success

The secret to living a fulfilling life is not overcoming your fear of failure, it's overcoming your fear of success.  If you are only working on your fear of failure, then you aren't reaching for success but surviving in a dry land where there is no water and a culture of scarcity. (Sounds bad) 

If you are working on your fear of success, you will overcome both your fear of failure and your fear of success.  When you break through a fear of success, you begin to live in the land of prosperity. 

So, focus on Success and breaking through to the next level.  What you focus on expands.  You reap what you sow.  You sow with your thoughts and that creates your future.  Think of negative thinking as an attack on your dreams, your family, your finances, and your future.

When you begin to think of thoughts as your future, you can never again allow a negative thought to take root in your soul.  Think of them as poison trying to stifle the good things flowing your way.  Keep your mind fresh.  The mind has a tendancy to incubate thoughts, nurturing emotions that are stored in your soul and then used by your ego to control you. 

Give your soul the weapons and nutrition it needs to guide you to prosperity.  Stop craming worry, fear, depressing thougths, and anger down there.  What you focus on expands and clogs the system.  It takes over as a stronghold.  What do you want taking a stronghold in your life?  Good thoughts or bad?

By the way, change occurs externally little by little; your finances, relationships, and environment.  But internally, it can change quickly by gaining control of your thoughts which are the rudder of your emotions.

Enjoy this poem named "Our Deepest Fear." 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

This inspiring quote by Marianne Williamson

  

The Number One Question I Get From People

 

As some of you already know, I also work as a business and personal coach besides working with real estate investors.

Here is the number one question I have gotten asked over the last 20 years.

“How do I know God’s plan for my life?”

Another way the question is asked is “How does God talk to me?” 

Well, I have good news and bad news….

Which do you want first?

Good – I can answer that.

Bad – you might not like the answer.

God speaks to us all the time, but we are too busy running around living the American Life, and we don’t have time to stop and listen.

Here is the answer:

God speaks to us in 2 ways –

1. Logos – written word
2. Rhema – spoken word

• Logos is simple; it is the word of God referred to as the Bible.
• Rhema is the spoken word and key to what God has called you to do.  So how do you hear it?

It is written in your heart as the scripture says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.”  The word desire in Latin transcribes as from the father.  De = from and Sire = father, so the desires of your heart are from the father. 

“If ye abide in me and my word abides in you, you shall ask what ye will and it shall be done”.  You’re asking for the desires God has put in your heart.  Desires would be relationships, success, happiness, peace, fulfillment etc. 

OK – so how do I know God is talking to me? 

There are two ways that I have learned that bring the fastest results.

1. Get a notebook and a pen and find someplace quiet to sit down and relax with some classical or instrumental music in the background. (Take a few deep breaths)  Then begin to write down anything and everything you have ever wanted to do in your life.  You have to do this with the idea that time and money are no object.  If your ego or a voice in your head starts to tell you that it is impossible or tries to figure out how to do one of the goals, ignore and keep writing.  This isn’t about how, this is about what.  Nothing is impossible.  Don’t be afraid to get a little crazy with this.  Whoola – this is the start of what God is calling you to do.

Here are five areas I like to set goals in:

1. My relationship with God
2. My relationship with me
3. My relationship with my family
4. Finances, work, business
5. My purpose

Disclaimer:  I know some of the stuff you are about to read might seem a little strange, but try it anyway.  If what you are already doing in your life works then don't change it.  If you are seeking for something that does work, then do this.

2. Probably the best time to hear God’s voice is when you are stuck; you know emotionally blocked.  You don’t know what to do in a situation.  Maybe you are unhappy with life in general.  Emotional blocks are probably the number one cause of sickness both physical and mental in the world today.  Suppressing the natural flow of life is crippling.  “Worry about nothing, but in all things through prayer; let your request be made known to God.” 

1. First – you have to repent for the sin of unbelief that has you blocked.  So find someplace quiet. (later you will be able to do this anywhere and anytime) Begin to think about what has you blocked.  Sometimes you won’t know what it is.  Maybe you are depressed or lonely.  Put your full attention on the blockage or fear or sin or whatever you want to call it.  (Remember, we reap what we sow, so if you are living in fear of something like bills or sickness, you will reap that in your life – that why it is the sin of unbelief)  After you have your full attention on the problem, move to step two.
2. Second – take that blockage or mass of feelings and emotions and put it in your hands out in front of you. (acting this out in the physical is optional, but not necessary since you are now moving in the spiritual)  Make sure all of the blockage is out of your body, mind and soul and in your hands.  Once you have all of the unbelief, emotion, blockage or whatever you want to call it out, move to step three for God to talk to you.
3. Three – Now see God standing before you.  (He is already there and always has been)  Give Him what is in your hands and see what He does with it.  Now begin to thank Him that He is taking this from you – Here is where God might talk to you.  Wait and see if there is anything that comes to your mind that He is guiding you to do.  At this point, your heart and mind are very aware and open to guidance.  Even if you feel moved to take action in a certain area, always move on to the next step.  You created a void in your soul and you must fill it or it will fill itself through your ego.  Now move to step four.
4. Four – What is it that you really desire?  Now let your request be made known to God.  Speak to God in His language.  Imagine what you want.  See it, feel it, hear it, taste it, smell it and experience it with all your heart.  If you truly desire it, share it with God and begin to thank Him for giving you the desire (from the father) of your heart.  Now move to step five.
5. Five – Now give your request to God the same way you would give your car keys to a trusted family member or friend.  Let Him have it and let your soul trust in Him to handle the situation.  Totally release any desire to hold on to it or beg.  Don’t beg, move in faith knowing that your father loves you and will honor your faith.  Move to number six.
6. Six – Now sit quietly and wait for a thought, intuition, a small voice deep in your soul, a vision, but probably just a thought and write it down.  Then wait to see if there is anything else.  Now move to number seven and the most important step.
7. Seven – Whatever God told you to do – do it.  Do it now.  Do it as unto the Lord.  If you do, your life will begin to spiral upward with inspired actions that open doors to your dreams.  If you don’t act, you will simply become blocked again except this time with guilt.  So do whatever God tells you.  If He tells you to do nothing – then do that. Move to step eight.
8. Eight – “When you have done all you can do, then stand” and wait on God.  Stay in a state of gratitude for what God is doing in your life.  Remember - You reap what you sow.  What you focus on expands.  So don't allow the smallest doubt.  When doubt comes, simply say, "I don't know how you are going to do this God, I just know you are working in my favor to bring forth the desires you have put in my heart."  You might want to write that down.  Move to number Nine.
9. Nine – repeat.  Do this once a day for 365 days and your life will change more in 365 days than the rest of your life put together.

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